“Do not
be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness
have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?.” 2 Corinthians 6:14
God made us to desire human companionship in the form of a
husband or wife. A husband and wife are made to share each others’ lives
intimately -- in ways that no-one else should. In a godly relationship, spouses
can improve each other, look out for one another, and build each other up in
the Lord.
You might think that God has a perfect spouse
planned for you. However, as disappointing as it is, no-one can ever be a
perfect spouse; “no one is righteous”
(Romans 3:10) or perfect. Only Jesus“committed
no sin” (1 Peter 2:22).
So what can you look for in a spouse?
1. Follow Jesus : The most important thing to desire in a spouse
-- and in yourself -- is a close relationship with, and submission to, the
Lord. Although no one can be perfect like Jesus, we should still try find
someone who is Christlike -- and we should try to be Christlike ourselves.
2. Goal : The role of a spouse is not to “complete” the other or to
constantly fulfill the other’s desire to be “happy”. No human can complete
another -- only God can fulfill our lives. The goal of a marriage -- indeed,
the goal of your life -- should be “for the glory of God” ( Corinthians 10:31).
3. Pray : Pray for your future spouse. Pray for God’s leading in selecting
him or her. God can guide you in everything -- and that includes the important
question of marriage and to whom.
There is no one way to know if God has led someone to an ideal
potential spouse. But when you are walking a Christ-following life and seeking
counsel from fellow Christians, you can often tell if furthering your
relationship into marriage will help you both continue to lead godly lives.
(NB:
Taken from godlife.com and shortened)
